January 22, 2015

Stitch Fix #4: Why haven't you tried this yet!?

Admitting how much I've been enjoying the Stitch Fix online styling service is kind of like coming out of the closet for me. I drive a minivan. I have four kids. I work at a church. I'm cheap.
There's absolutely nothing about me that screams style.

I think that might be why I enjoy it so much. It makes me feel fancy. (Apparently, I'm easily amused)

Fix #4 was my favorite one yet. I'll tell you why in a minute.

People keep telling me, "I'd love to try it, but I'd never spend that much on clothes."
I get it. Each piece individually is more than I'd usually spend too, unless it was something that I was ready to die on a hill for and never live without.

But here's the deal. The experience is just fun. There's a $20 initial investment for the styling service (which goes toward your purchase if you buy something). It's worth the $20 price tag just to have the fun of enjoying items picked out just for you, and delivered to your doorstep for you to try on and mix & match in the privacy of your own home. So if you try it and love it, and share it with even one friend, Stitch Fix gives you credit.

I managed to rack up a decent amount of credit, and everything I've kept in my previous fixes has been FREE. FREE ya'll! If I divide the initial investment by the number of item's I've kept, I'm at about $9 each. That's my kind of pricing!

And, Stitch Fix is getting pretty good at styling me, so that definitely adds to the fun-factor.
Here's how to make it work well for you: Last month, I ran across this blog from a Stitch Fix pro about how to get the best Fix possible. Using my Pinterest boards, I got very specific about things I liked and didn't like and the way I left feedback. This fix was a ton of fun, and scored me one of my absolute favorite pieces so far.

So seriously....what are you waiting for!? If you're ready to try it, check out the linked blog above and update your Pinterest boards. Then, request a fix (and use my link if you're so inclined :) ) --- https://www.stitchfix.com/referral/3372263

On to my last fix!

Fortunately, I didn't have to take my own photos this time. We've lived in our new place for 5 months, and somehow Jon didn't think to convert the corner of the unfinished basement into a photo studio until a couple weeks ago. As terribly uncomfortable as it is for me to pose for him to "practice," it's worse to try to shoot photos of myself with my phone. These are at least a little better than my awkwardly shot selfies.


The first item was the Leah Paisley Print Scarf  by Octavia.
This was it. This is the PERFECT scarf for me. I adore paisley. I adore all those colors. I'm always, always freezing, so I adore scarves. I knew before I even put this on, it was a keeper.

Plus, I have like 100 other things I can wear it with.


The price on this was $28. (But used credit to purchase). I've already worn it like ten times, so I'm pretty sure this one was worth the investment.

The second piece was Jake Slim Bootcut Jean by Just Black
All I have to say about this is, don't request a Fix right after Christmas.


These were great jeans, but the fact that I couldn't get them buttoned posed a problem. I don't hold back during Christmas, and it showed in the weeks following! They'd probably work fine now, but I just couldn't justify purchasing them if I wasn't sure they'd fit in the near future.

The Noriega Boat Neck Knit Top by Tart was super comfy. It was made of a really smooth and slinky fabric that laid really nicely.


While I liked this shirt, it didn't "wow" me and it was just a tad short in the front. I can tell Stitch Fix is trying to send me longer cut items, but I'm well aware of how difficult it is to find ones that work so I can't blame them too much when they're just half an inch too short.

As much as I love polka dots, the Farley Swiss Dot Ruffle Front Blouse by Skies are Blue just wasn't my style. I hate ruffles. I failed to mention that in my profile. That will be corrected. NO.MORE.RUFFLES.


I was skeptical about this last item, because it looked like a plain, dull, black shirt. But I always try everything on, and it turned out this Queensland Dolman Jersey Top by Market & Spruce was a winner! I think it was made of the same super-comfy fabric as the boat neck top, but the length was good this time. Plus, hubby loved it, and it goes with my favorite crazy-pants - I always need more opportunities to wear my crazy-pants ;)
The price on this one was $48, which again is more than I'd ever pay normally, but when paying with credit, was totally worth it. And it will be a great basic piece that will go well with several other things I own.

I made some changes to my Pinterest board and left specific notes for my stylist after this fix, and another one is already on it's way, so we'll see how they did!

Ready to try it?

January 5, 2015

Hellloooo Whole30!

I always find it interesting how suddenly in January everyone wants to be healthy. I get it - new year, new goals and stuff, but why such a big push for health once a year? We'd all probably be in a lot better shape if we kept that mindset more than 1/12th of the year. My gym is suddenly packed at the beginning of January, yet somehow by February, it's dwindled back down to the good 'ol regulars.

Sometimes we have to admit the hard truth - health is a year-round deal. No short-term program is going to produce long-lasting results. 

We work pretty hard around here to make sure our family has a healthy overall lifestyle, and we've definitely made significant changes in the last few years, following a modified version of the paleo diet most of the time. But there's room in the margin for eating out, eating with friends, holidays, etc. You see, I come from a cooking family, and there are some amazing cooks in it. I'm convinced my grandmother makes the best pie in the state. My mom rocks out the homemade caramels and pecan bars and my aunt is the soup and appetizer queen.

When we all get together for Christmas, there ain't no way I'm missing out on that!

So as much as I believe it's important to make healthy choices ALL YEAR, the weeks following Christmas do demand a little bit of a "restart." For me, this is also a time to test my body - what it can handle and can't, how it reacts to certain foods, what happens with massive nutrient consumption. I love experimenting on myself and I've learned SO much through that process. I've tested the limits with grain-free diets, eating only whole foods, avoiding sugar, and juice fasting.

This year, we decided the Whole30 would be a great compliment to our paleo-ish diet and the best way to reset ourselves after the holiday season. Whole30 focuses on what I believe is the key to health -  real, nutrient dense food.

No pills.

No supplements.

No expensive plans.


You don't need those. Real nutrition comes from real food. Nearly every aspect of your health is affected by your diet, both positively and negatively. Whole30 "is a short-term nutritional reset, designed to help you put an end to unhealthy cravings and habits, restore a healthy metabolism, heal your digestive tract and balance your immune system." (Learn more here)

Americans are always looking for a quick fix. A pill, a prescription, the easy way out. What we (and the medical professionals) need is to take control of our diet and figure out how the foods we eat affect us.

For 30 days, we will not:
• Consume any sugar or sweetener of any kind
• Consume alcohol in any form
• Eat grains
• Eat legumes
• Consume dairy products
• Consume carageenan, MSG or sulfites
• Recreate any paleo baked goods, treats, or junk food with "approved ingredients"



We will eat clean meats, wild-caught seafood, eggs, nuts, seeds, vegetables, fruit and good, high quality fats.


People often wonder what we will eat and think it will be difficult. Honestly, it's not difficult at all, it just requires some planning. There's a million resources online, and a great many recipes that help make this really quite easy.

We're actually already on day 4. This was last night's supper...


Garlic and herb spaghetti squash with dried roma tomatoes.
It.was.AWESOME.


Ever had spaghetti squash? You should try it. Delish.


Tonight was Asian ground beef lettuce cups...


Yep...we're suffering.

It's only been four days and we're already feeling better. Personally, I'm expecting to shed those extra holiday pounds, see my skin clear up (it was mad at me for all the sugar I ate over Christmas!), start sleeping better again and see a reduction in fatigue. I'm also hoping to break my somewhat addictive cycle of emotional/boredom eating. Jon is really experimenting with the 100% grain-free/sugar-free and is seeing how a full 30 days will affect his body.

Oh yeah, and there's NO CHEATING. Or you start back at day one. One bite of preservative-laden, gluten filled pizza crust and you're back at square one! That part is a little tricky, because we do have a few food-filled events to attend this month, but doing it together helps keep us accountable and we'll plan ahead for those events.

We've seen amazing changes when we carefully and purposefully change our diet based on what we've learned about ourselves from the foods we consume, and I'm excited to see what the Whole30 reset challenge will bring. I would challenge you, before you go spending your Christmas bonus on some magical program, take some time and make an effort to focus on cutting out foods that could possibly be causing problems, and adding more nutrient dense foods and high quality fats.

And if you're up for it, feel free to hop on the Whole30 wagon with us!




January 3, 2015

The new house: First FOUR projects!

It's been slightly over four months since we moved into our new house. There is no doubt that we are enjoying the extra space for our family, especially during these winter months when making kids burn energy outside becomes difficult. One of the greatest things about this place is that there was absolutely NOTHING that required work. Everything we wanted to do basically consisted of just cosmetic changes that we thought would help the space feel more like "ours."

So rather than give a tour of a house that we didn't think reflected our tastes at all, we decided to show bits and pieces of it as we get our "before and after" projects finished.

Now, I'm not so naive as to think that everyone is sitting around waiting to see the inside of our house, and we are no rush to complete our projects. We are funding them with money make from things we sell at local consignment stores and rummage sale sites, so it's slow-going. But I do have a dear sister who moved overseas about a week before we moved into this home, so for her and anyone else who is interested, here's what we've accomplished so far!


Project #1: Front door

BEFORE

There was absolutely nothing wrong with this front door, we just didn't care of the green color. It was a little reminiscent of the late 90's/early 2000's color palette and I thought something that matched the neutral tones in the rest of the exterior would be better, and would make decorating the outside for the various seasons and holidays a little easier.

AFTER

We went with Sherwin Williams "Black Fox" which is a yummy warm neutral brown with gray undertones. It's one of my new favorite colors and we will be using it in a few places inside too. The gray skies and snow definitely don't do the exterior of our home any favors, but hopefully you can get the idea.


Project #2: Kitchen island


BEFORE

The island project kind of came out of nowhere. I was considering painting the island a coordinating color when we painted the kitchen, so was poking around on pinterest for ideas.

Always a good idea, right?

I started running across photos of islands that had been "built out" in board and batten style. Our kids were staying with their grandparents so that I could paint our office (project #3!). Jokingly, I said to Jon, "maybe you could work on this (showing a pinterest photo) while I paint the office." He thought it looked like a great project that wouldn't cost much and headed straight off to Lowes!

He also thought it was a fun opportunity for a little time-lapse photography. ;)


We used mostly 1x6 pieces of MDF cut with custom angles to fit around the sheet rocked island, added a few trim pieces around the base, and painted it with my new favorite "Black Fox" color.

AFTER
We love the more substantial look of this island and I think the dark color adds some interest. The kitchen and dining space will eventually get a new wall color and new window treatments as well, but those are low on the priority list at the moment.


Project #3: Office 

This "before" picture is really before anything. Everything from our old office was thrown in just enough so that we could get to the computer and that was it! It was a typical "just moved in" disaster, but it's the only photo we had.

BEFORE
Shortly before we moved we had completely re-done our office in our other house. Not only did we absolutely love it, it arguably sold our house. Every.single.person we showed our home to raved about the office. I was praying we could get the furniture to fit in this office the same way, but cutting down one of the Ikea Expedit shelves, but after many google searches, it appeared that wasn't an option.

OFFICE IN PREVIOUS HOME

Instead we decided to use some of our existing furniture and purchase a few new Ikea pieces to make a second workspace.

AFTER

We added one Ikea Besta base cabinet to the Besta drawer unit we already had and added legs to both. I purchased a large pine board at Lowes and stained it with Minwax Dark Walnut stain to create the second workspace. Then we added three shorter Ikea Besta units above the work space to create some storage. This room has nine-foot ceilings, so there was lots of space to fill.


As much as I wanted to have our piano in the living room, the openness and lack of available wall space left it without a proper home. The office seemed like the next best place, and the bonus is we can close the door so we aren't interrupted when helping the kids with lessons.



There are three big challenges for me when it comes to decorating this house:

1. Carpet. Our other home had beautiful wood floors that went with everything. Thankfully, the carpet in this home is high quality and pretty neutral.

2. Traditional style. I was used to, and loved, the mid-century modern style of our other house. It was very us. The much more traditional style of this home dictates the decor to a certain degree, so we're trying to find ways to incorporate both styles without making things look out of place.

3. The big one - Wood trim. Have you every noticed that 99.9 percent of Pinterest/Houzz/Magazine photos of what's considered "beautiful" homes have WHITE trimwork? Our previous home did, and it seriously goes with every single paint color. Wood trim? Not so much.

There's a pretty high percentage of us that live in certain areas of the Great Plains/Midwest that are dealing with wood trim, and some very beautiful houses that use it. Enough that I think it's a bit of a shame that there aren't more photos of homes that showcase wood trim well to give the rest of us some ideas.


The color we chose for the walls was Sherwin Williams "Naval" (6244). It was a Pottery Barn pick for Fall, coordinated with the neutrals we plan to use in other areas, and I loved the richness of it. I kept my chartreuse accessories from our other home for the pops of color. I'm hoping to recover two chairs with the fabric swatch from West Elm.

We are certainly not claiming to have done it well but I do think the color we chose was an improvement. The previous color didn't do the wood trim any favors, and I think Naval does a better job of contrasting and highlighting the wood.



Project #4: Bedroom/closet wall

The previous owner custom-built this home, and had added built-in nooks for their televisions. Unfortunately, the home was built just before flat-screen TV's became the norm. There are two such "nooks" in the house.

The first is above the fireplace in the living room...


That nook requires some serious decorating creativity. I managed to make it work for Halloween, but it was a challenge! And I don't think I can be that creative every time.

I'm throwing this picture in for my Dad, who absolutely HATES that I decorate with skulls for Halloween ;)

We had planned to remodel the fireplace area by switching out the stone, building out the mantle and removing the "nook" over Christmas break. But we decided we weren't 100% sure how we wanted to do it, and decided that the cost of adding new stone made it too expensive to tackle during the holiday season.

Instead, we decided to remove the one in our bedroom. It jutted into the closet, taking up valuable closet space.




I love how my husband is not afraid to tackle house projects! He does pretty good construction work for a software architect!


 We let the kids help with demo...




It was a fairly painless project, except for the fact that part of what needed to be removed was attached to the wall with a pocket door on it, meaning it was attached from the inside. We definitely didn't want to damage the pocket door, so some special tools were required to remove the screws and wood from that area. 

After that, it was pretty much just patching a giant hole!



This room will be painted as well, but we weren't ready for that project yet so just patched the wall with the paint the previous owners left us.


We actually kept the wiring for a TV, because it really is a great place for one. 


And that's it for now! Four projects in four months. It's definitely starting to feel more like our home now. Project number five is a big one, which is why we've waited to do it. But when it's finished, it will go a LONG way toward making the house feel like us

Project #5: Main living area paint


The reason we've waited is because I'm scared to death of this project. Our main living area extends from our front door all the way through the foyer and living room to the back of the house, up the staircase and all throughout the family room and living area on our second level and down the staircase to the basement. It all flows together and therefore needs to be one color. My typical bold, dark color choices would not be good for this space, so I'm venturing into new territory and doing a lighter neutral, hoping to accent it with the bold colors I love. 

Because of the vastness of the space, the rounded corners, carpeted stairs and high ceilings, we need to hire someone to do part of the work. With any luck, this will be done in January! I'm leaning toward Sherwin Williams Anew Gray. 


So if any of my neutral-paint-expert-friends have any reason why this color should not grace my walls, speak now or forever hold your peace!

December 9, 2014

Stitch Fix #3

I'm not exactly one to follow trends, so I feel a little bit sheepish admitting that I'm kind of enjoying using Stitch Fix. And maybe Stitch Fix doesn't even count as a trend. But the whole order-something-online-try-it-and-send-it-back-if-you-don't-like-it thing definitely IS a trend. I've even seen companies doing this with dog treats now. Personally I think if your dog needs to taste-test custom ordered treats, you need a different dog. I wouldn't even do that for my kids!

But custom-chosen clothes for a tired and busy mama with not a lot of time to shop? Yes, please.

Shopping is a pastime I used to thoroughly enjoy, and still do on occasion. But some of these weird trends are making it more tempting for me to utilize services like Stitch Fix. For example, what is with the wide, short sweaters and skinny pants? I thought it was a teenager thing, but now it's crept into my favorite store too. Yes, even Athleta has decided this is a trend worth grabbing onto.


Of course that woman makes them both look great. But in my experience, boxy, short sweaters do not look good on tall people (recall goal #5 from my first fix). Or maybe they just don't look good on me. Most normal length clothing is too short for me, so a sweater made short by design comes halfway up my torso, and that's not a look I'm going for. And those pants?? I got brave and tried a pair of those on once - I felt like MC Hammer. Maybe therein lies the problem...I might be getting too old for this stuff...

Anyway.....

Stitch Fix is well aware of my height problem and they're doing a pretty good job of figuring it out. I had a pretty decent amount of credit so thought I'd let them take another shot at finding some things to fit me. 

(bear with me and my pathetic 'selfies'. my ever-so-talented camera-man husband was unavailable)

The first two items were a printed bib tab-sleeved blouse and a fairly simple necklace:


LOVED the blouse. It was long enough and the print was fun, plus it's navy and orange, which I love together.  The necklace was cute, but I have a similar one so no need to spend money on this one.

Next was a pair of trouser jeans, which are a welcome break from the weird Hammer-esque pant trend.


Cute, comfy and they fit well. I decided to reserve judgement on these until I tried on the other pieces. It was my hope that I could keep all five pieces and take advantage of the 25% discount, use my credit and sort of get everything for "free."


#4 was a simple hoodie. The sleeves on this were so lusciously long!! I love it when I can find full-long sleeves that are long enough, since I usually have to resort to 3/4 length or just pulling long ones up. It was really, really comfy too. I wasn't a huge fan of ripped neckline, but figured a scarf would cover that up anyway. The price was WAY too high at $78 though, if I decided to not keep all 5 pieces and use all my credit.

Last but not least was a really fun outerwear piece.


Amazingly, the sleeves on this were long enough too. But just barely. I loved the longer length and that it was something fun and different from anything else I own. My only beef with this that the gray piece that covered the zipper kept flapping open and exposing the zipper. Not a huge deal, but it looked so much cuter when it was closed.

The verdict?
I decided that while I liked and could have kept everything in this fix, the only piece I really loved was the printed bib blouse. And it was one of the more reasonable pieces at $38. Instead of keeping everything just for the sake of getting the discount, I thought it would be more fun to just keep the piece that I loved, and use the rest of my credit on future fixes. Trying on 4 things that actually fit is kind of fun and the Stitch Fix stylists get better the more feedback you give, so I'm thinking they've got me somewhat figured out. Hoping that means I'll get a couple more "love" pieces the next time!

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PS - wonder what happened to Fix #2? I requested some layering pieces, and they sent an array of drapey front cardigans, sweaters and a blazer. Apparently those are "in" now too and also look terrible on really tall people! (or just me). I hated them all, so noted that I wanted "NO MORE DRAPEY FRONT ITEMS". They figured it out and did much better with Fix #3.

November 17, 2014

How to afford an international adoption: Part 2

We are not the Jones's.
The elusive Jone's that everyone is always trying to "keep up with" - you know, the ones who have the new car, the perfectly manicured lawn, the Pottery Barn furnishings, the boat for the weekends...

We are not them

The Jones's probably couldn't afford an adoption.

Yesterday I mentioned the real reason we were able to afford adopting from China (Part 1 is HERE). But the truth of the matter is that although God did provide for us in a totally miraculous way, we did our best to set ourselves up for Him to work.

Let me just clarify that when it comes to income, we are totally average people. Jon has a good job that provides a fair wage and I work just enough outside the home to basically pay for our food. We are not super-earners and have not been the beneficiaries of some huge inheritance or anything. We are just average.

Shortly after we got married (like two months) we found out we were expecting our first child. This was roughly 7 years earlier than we planned, so it threw it a little kink in our perfectly-laid-out-life. We had always planned that I would stay home with our children, but that seemed pretty impossible now that we were actually having one and I wasn't even done with college.

We always believed that everything we had really belonged to the Lord anyway, we were just the managers. We just had never had very much to manage! But with a baby on the horizon, you start looking at things differently. Our mentor couple invited us to a Dave Ramsey class they were teaching, but halfway through the 13 week event they unexpectedly had to bow out and asked us to take over. That was definitely the blind leading the blind! But it was probably also the best thing that could have happened to us. We were thrown into teaching something that we knew only a little about and had to hold ourselves accountable to everyone else in that class. It was the beginning of learning  three very important lessons:

1. YOU NEED A PLAN
Have you ever stepped into Wal-Mart for a few things and walked out wondering how in the world you spent $200? Or realized when you flip the calendar to December that you have absolutely no money for Christmas gifts? I am going to use the "B-word" - you need a budget. If you don't like the word "budget" we can call it a money management plan. Whatever you want to call it, you need one. All it does is tell your money where it should go, so you don't end up wondering where it went. It's a tool for you take control of your spending and the first step in making smart financial decisions.

Five years of Sprang family budgets!


2. DEBT WILL KILL YOU
Since teaching that first class, we've taught 8 others and can say with absolute certainty that debt is the number one reason people aren't able to meet their financial goals. It's not lack of income, it's too much debt. Three types are the biggest culprits: car loans, student loans and credit card debt.

3. YOU DON'T NEED __________.
A new riding lawnmower. A pair of $300 boots. To have your kids play that expensive sport. A stainless steel fridge. There's nothing wrong with any of those, but there is a huge difference between needs and wants and living in the affluent culture that we do, we often get those seriously, seriously mixed up.

I realize that all of these things go against the grain in our "I-want-it-now-and-I-deserve-it" culture. But here's the thing - we don't deserve it. We do not deserve a thing our God has not graciously given us.  It's HIS. It is ALL His. And if we don't manage what He gives us in a way that is honoring to Him, it's like telling him "I can do better" and closing the door on him in that area of our lives.

All we did to afford adoption was live within our means.

This is the house we lived in for 9 years and through our adoption process. It did not have an attached garage. It wasn't huge. It needed new windows and some TLC. It was perfect, and we loved it, and we could afford it.


This was the kitchen in that house. It didn't have new cupboards. Or granite, or even matching appliances. But I cooked a great many delicious meals in this kitchen, and it got the job done.


We drove this car (behind the cute girl on the bike) for over ten years. We paid $4000 cash for it. That comes out to be about $33/month. It got us where we needed to go and it kept our kids safe. Because you don't need a $30,000 car to get through the snow and keep your kids safe. You just don't. This one did both for a savings of $26,000. And what do you do when you don't have a car payment? You pay yourself that payment so that you can replace your car if you need to, fund your savings account and never have a car payment again.


When we eat out with our kids, we use coupons or go on two-for-one day. We buy most of our kids clothes (and a fair amount of our own) from consignment stores or clearance racks. Coffee comes from our pot and not from Starbucks. We choose activities for our kids that are affordable and worth the cost, and even then sometimes the fees for those things are their birthday gifts.

Don't get me wrong - we aren't crazy, ultra-frugal money nazis. We took our kids to Disney World, went to Costa Rica for our anniversary and put a jacuzzi tub in our bathroom. And we recently bought a slightly larger house (with matching appliances!). Thanks to my number-crunching hubby, all of those things were planned and budgeted for.

Living debt-free instead of paycheck to paycheck put us in a place where we could say "yes" when God asked us to move. If He had said "sell some stuff and use your savings to pay for this adoption" we could have done that. Honestly I'm glad he didn't, but if we had had to do that to give a child a home, we could have.

And it would have been worth it.

"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and rust do not destroy, and where theives do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."  - Matthew 6:19-21


November 16, 2014

How to afford an international adoption: Part 1

In honor of November being National Adoption Month, I decided it would be fitting to finally put together a series of posts that I've been thinking about for a long time. I don't think it's any secret that adoption is expensive or that the perceived cost is a hinderance to many families who are interested in adoption, and I certainly do not claim to have all the answers. But we, and a great many other families have managed to make it work, so I'll share my two cents anyway.

First and foremost:
Affording an adoption is not all about the money.

I realize that there are many people who successfully adopt who are not Christians. But in my experience, a very significant number of them are. And they aren't just ones who label themselves as "Christian" for lack of a better choice, they're ones who are adopting because that's what the Lord has called them to and they're prayerfully and intentionally following Him. This was the case for us, and this is why we were able to afford our adoption.

Meili's finding ad from the Chinese newspaper (and Google's translation, which is fairly accurate, on the right)
We knew for a long time that adopting was something the Lord wanted to do (read HERE to learn more about that). We also had no idea how on earth we would ever afford that, but trusted that if it was something we were supposed to do, our God was big enough to find a way to make it happen. Honestly, I think almost every Christian adoptive family starts out this way. I only know of a handful who have been blessed with such abundant resources that they can pay for the whole thing upfront. Several months ago, someone posted a question on one (of the many) adoption forums I follow. It went something like this:

"We really believe God is calling us to start this adoption now. We have a little bit of money to start with but absolutely nowhere near enough to finish. Looking for advice from those who've been there - what should we do?"

It was amazing to watch the answers pour in. Time after time after time, the answer was the same. No one started with enough. Most people started with hardly anything. They trusted God and took it one day at a time. "We prayed and God provided a __________" - a grant, an anonymous donor, a raise at work, a fee reduction, an unexpected tax return, etc.


Relying on God to provide in such a huge way is sort of like sky diving. It's a crazy, amazing, nerve-wracking adventure where you put total faith in something other than yourself. You risk it all clinging to the hope that that parachute is going to open, that God is going to meet those needs. And when He does, it's so absolutely amazing, that you just can't do anything but give him the glory. Our loving and gracious Father did this for us time and time again (you can read about two times HERE and HERE). Not that we didn't need a few reminders along the way. We humans are so fickle - or at least I am - we can go from fully trusting to mostly doubting in a manner of minutes. But He even had that covered. In June of 2012 I was struggling with how it was all going to work. That Sunday our pastor gave a sermon titled "God Equips." The main point he drove home that day?
"What God calls us to do, he equips us to accomplish."




It was the reminder we needed. You see, when we started journey, we had nothing set aside for an adoption. Nothing. Yes, we had some savings, and we figured we would benefit from the adoption tax credit, but we had absolutely zero funds solely available for adoption. Not only that, but as we were praying about if this really was the right time to start, I felt the Lord asking me to trust him even more. (Obviously He knows I have control issues and wasn't going to let me get away with thinking I had anything to do with this) He was asking us to not only start the process with nothing, but never to ask for anything.

And so we didn't. Not once. Now, we did have fundraisers - we had a garage sale and clearly stated all proceeds would go toward our adoption. Jon offered photo sessions for this same purpose, but we never outright said, "please donate to this cause." There were people who did, because they wanted to, but never because we asked.  When we had a payment due, the money was always there. Sometimes, that payment took our fund within a dollar or two of zero. But it was always there. We joked that our adoption fund was like loaves and fish - it just kept coming and we couldn't figure how it worked, but it always did.


I realize it doesn't always work exactly this way for every single Christian adoptive family. Everyone's story is different. Ours involved me finally getting into a place of total surrender and reliance on the Father; something I struggle with DAILY. He was setting me up for the future when I would (and will) doubt, so that He can point me back to that time and say "Remember how I provided for you then? Surely, you can trust me now."

This is why the most important part of affording an adoption is not saving or scrimping, or investing or giving in a certain way (though that is important -see Part 2, coming soon!). The most important thing, is following the leading of the Holy Spirit with a life that is fully committed to Jesus Christ and the will of the our heavenly Father.